Pure Love

Once upon a time, love was pure. True love has always been pure though. However, there was a time when the relational love that we have with one another was pure -at least to some extent. Then, love gave, love sacrificed, love cared, love showed concern for unselfish reasons, love shared. Love was transparent. You could see through it for what it really was. Love was just, love was pure. 

But then, things changed. We didnt see it coming. It was quite sudden. Love became an illusion. We didn’t see it real. It no longer gave, no longer sacrificed, no longer cared, no longer showed concern. And when it did, it was for selfish reasons. Love became selfish. Oh, love was opaque. It became difficult to understand. To love became hard. Love became impure. 

What happened to our love? The love we shared as humans? Who took it away? Or should I say why did it go away? Where can we find it? Can our love come back? Can our love be pure once again?

Well, I know of One whose love is still pure and whole. He lives in the high heavens but in the little room of my heart, I can reach Him. Ill go to Him and learn. He will be glad to teach me. I would learn how to love again. And I would unlearn selfishness. I would learn how to care and be concerned for all the right reasons. I would sit at His feet and drink from Him deep well of knowledge and wisdom. Oh, what a refreshing when His love would change me. It would teach me right. I would be able to love again. Even if i may not be able to love exactly like Him, my love would be somthing close to His love. 

I choose to not wait any longer for our love to return. Instead, I’ll go look for it. And I’ll find it. I’ll find it in the One whose love is still pure. And when I find it, I’ll bring it home. Yes, I’ll show it. I’ll let my world know what it means to love again. I realise that it may not be so easy but step by step, little by little, day by day, I’ll do better in showing my love because I know that if I continue showing it, then I would make my world better. Ill love my brother and my sister. Ill love my friend and my enemy. Ill just love. With His help, my love would become pure again. 

Wouldnt you rather join me? C’mon. Lets go brink back our love. From the One whose love is pure. Then, we would share and care and show concern for all the right reasons. We would shine the light of our pure love and our world would be lighted up with this love. Then we would know that we have achieved the greatest thing there is- we have loved. 
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.

1 John 4:11 NIV


Where did the love go? 

Yesterday, I heard three different stories of three couples and some things that played out between them. 

The first was that a man left his wife standing on the road waiting for him to go get something that he had forgotten back home, only for him to continue his journey by another route all because he didnt want to pay the transport fare of 50 Naira for his wife. So sad.

The second story was about how a man came back late from where he could not explain and began to feign anger and poured away the entire pot of food his wife had prepared with the little money on her. This is a wife who was waiting for his return so they could eat together and she had also used her freshly earned salary to pay off the guy’s debts. Disheartening.

The third was about how a wife was so unnappreciative of her husband and would ussually extort money from him saying things like she needed to perform a sacrifice and other gibberish. She cheated on her loving and caring husband and later left him for another man after getting preggy. Smh.

Its not that I’m shocked at hearing things like this cos Ive heard even worse scenarios than this, but its just that I pondered upon the issues and i got to ask myself “what happened”? I mean, where did all the love go?? So you mean its 50naira that made you separate from your wife on the journey? Who does that? If you didnt want to pay, she wouldnt crucify you.  And to throw food thereby wasting it is a very bad act. Even babarians wont do that. Like…who wastes anything in this period not to talk of food? Plus the fact that you didnt contribute to the cooking of the food. Now cant u just be a good wife and not cause trouble for a men who chose you to be a part of him? What do you want to do with all the money youre hoarding? I mean what would you gain? Then you left…

You see, at a point in their lives, these three couples were once under the mango tree enjoying the cool evening breeze while promising themselves heaven and earth. So the question still lingers- where did the love go?

Love is strong. Its deep. Its the thing that caused a man to die on cross after a tiring journey with a heavy cross. Its not sex. Its not about the money we get. Its way deeper. A friend said people use the four letter word anyhow and mostly in the ‘light’ sex just to lighten the weight of the subject (paraphrased). Love is a decision. A lifetime decision at that. For better, for ‘better’. Yes. All the better. And in the non marriage concept, it is a way of life. Or should i say it should be our way of life. Im not justifying that the other parties of the three couples are saints in every way, but whatever it is, our actions and reactions should be tagged with love. 

Ever seen that picture of a man with a chain to his legs and an anvil on the other end of the chain. The anvil is tagged a grudge and the man cant move or do much so long as he is still holding on to that grudge. In my opinion, that anvil can also be tagged love. Yes. In this case, the love constrains you. Keeps you within its circumference and all that would radiate from you would be all about it. It prevents you from doing much in the sense of hurting your neighbour. That love anvil should really be tied around everyone’s legs. So married or not married, love becomes our way of life. Plus when choosing a life partner, be very sure of yourself so you are not forced to go back on your decision in years to come. Well, that one is entirely another topic on its own. 

So let me conclude by saying this. You know that scripture that says to bind the law of God on your neck, we really should heed to that. And then whats even the law of God? To Love. For in Love lies the fulfillment of the law. Simple. So here’s the scripture. And the succeeding verse just encourages us all the more.

Don’t ever let love and loyalty leave you. Tie them around your neck, and write them on your heart. Then God will be pleased and think well of you and so will everyone else.

Prov. 3:3‭-‬4 ERV

So it doesnt matter if youre married or not, lets show some love. To dat guy who greets you every morning who  seems to not have a future, give him a warm smile. To that lady who is always asking for assistance, you dont have to shun her. You can always decline politely. To that market woman who insults you; do you really wanna/have to reply? C’mon, youre bigger than that. And to that younger sibling who insults you, you dont have to kill them.They can still be corrected…and forgiven. So… 







Whats your veiw or take on love? Please share below.